tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6174594026385544744.post2596940581602907933..comments2023-07-18T13:35:27.239+01:00Comments on New(ish) To Spanking: LimitsElianehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10961611906046329911noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6174594026385544744.post-1897436019657573752008-10-24T22:06:00.000+01:002008-10-24T22:06:00.000+01:00Elaine, a well thought out answer.Taking the first...Elaine, a well thought out answer.<BR/>Taking the first step into our world can be frightening, a helping hand is always welcome.<BR/>Warm hugs,<BR/>Paul.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03790580459962602757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6174594026385544744.post-51133529094305701362008-10-24T21:38:00.000+01:002008-10-24T21:38:00.000+01:00Like the idea of 'first spanking meet limits'. Pr...Like the idea of 'first spanking meet limits'. Pretty common for an experienced spanko to have those. But for those that don't have much (or even any) experience with spanking, the idea of setting hard limits is far more challenging.<BR/><BR/>Having given a few 'first ever' spankings... I like to start by spelling out almost exactly what I'd like to happen in a step-by-step way. Then get feedback about the plan and adjust. Then give the spanking, and get more feedback. Basically make it more like a "yes/no" thing at the start as opposed to an open ended essay.<BR/><BR/>A good spanker, IMO, will focus on what ~will happen~ and not on what ~wont happen~ when dealing with a newbie. Don't want surprises and a "gee, you never said not to do that" pitfalls.<BR/><BR/>:)<BR/>Todd and SuzyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6174594026385544744.post-91741965499576414332008-10-24T14:22:00.000+01:002008-10-24T14:22:00.000+01:00For those who don't have a readily available partn...For those who don't have a readily available partner-- you know, like a spouse or SO-- I would also add that it's a good idea to play for the first time with someone who is used to playing with newcomers. The organizers of most spanking groups, or experienced bottoms, can recommend someone suitable. It makes a big difference, as it's an overwhelming enough situation without having to think about enforcing your limits during that first spanking.Indyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11949593044223905786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6174594026385544744.post-5146340096665851032008-10-24T11:47:00.000+01:002008-10-24T11:47:00.000+01:00I think you have given an excellent answer. When ...I think you have given an excellent answer. When we started I/we had no clue what we were doing. As time passed since I was playing with my husband I realized like you said your limits change as you get more and more comfortable. Going slow and communicating all the time is the key.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>PKPKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.com