What goes through a spanker's head when they are spanking? I'm very curious. My thought process while I'm being spanked is pretty simplistic. Depending on my mood, it will consist of one or more of the following thoughts, generally repeated ad infinitum: "Ow ow ow ow.... OWWWW"; "Noooo, not with that, please no"; "Mmm, nice"; "I am *not* going to let you see me cry, no way"; "Oh crap. I'm crying".
Pretty simple, right?
So what goes on in a spanker's brain? Is it all a bit Homer Simpson, as in "mmmmmmm, spanking.....", or does it rise to more exulted heights?: "Ah, there is a nice piece of bottom as yet unmarked which I shall aim for." or "I wonder if my aim is good enough to get the next three all in the same place". Then again, maybe they are all angels at heart, and are thinking things like "Poor love, it doesn't look as though she can take much more of this. I'll go easy with the next few, make them nice and light". Yeah, maybe not.
The point being though, that I truly have no idea. Would anyone care to enlighten me?
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Eliane,
What a wonderful question!! I hope you get some responses because inquiring minds want to know!!
Hugs, PK
(sorry about above. Think I'll ever learn to spell?)
Interesting question :-)
I think there's a range of thoughts and emotions. But the main ones for me boil down to "does this seem to be working" - i.e. am I whacking her at the right strength, in the right place, at the right frequency; does it seem to be hurting enough / too much / not enough.
Then there's the "where to whack" debate - on top of the last stroke, on that unmarked strip, high, low, ...
And there's the often commentary - role- or situation-specific. Sometimes talking can add to the punishment; sometimes it can reassure.
And, of course, there's often a sense of the enjoyment of the scene, and how fortunate one is to get to play with lovely partners :-)
Hi Eliane,
Found your blog thanks to PK (from New Beginnings) and I've been enjoying it. I really like this question too, and bet it's one lots of spankees wonder about. In fact, I may borrow it from you. :)
Every spanking is different, of course. A spanking at a spanking party is usually a social-like interactions, so the feeling is more friendly and playful. On the other hand, if it's a real discipline spanking... the feeling is serious and intense. So it's a wide spectrum, but certainly the type of spanking I'm giving impacts what I'm feeling.
There are some commonalities in my mind during just about all spankings I give though. I'm focused on taking my spankee to where I want her to go. That might be a fun place with lots of laughs, or an erotic place with lots of pleasure... a sensation experience, guilt relief, punishment, motivation... whatever it is, I'm thinking about how to take her there.
How do I need to spank, what do I need to say, how should I position her, hold her... what things can I do to put her mind where *I* want it to be. That's what I'm thinking, and I'm feeling in control or "dominant." That creates a certain rush for me that's hard to explain. It's probably something like the submissive feeling a spankee might get when she's being spanked though.
There is also a feeling of connection during a spanking. There is an exchange of trust that goes on. I know the woman I'm spanking trusts me to have bared her bottom and assumed a vulnerable position over my lap. That creates another energy I feel during a spanking.
Also is a touch of... mmmmmm... drool... spaaaaanking... there too.
;)
Todd
Eliane,
There is a whole plethora of feelings depending on the circumstances, underlying all the feelings, the foundation is one of love and trust.
The fact that this wonderful woman trusts and loves me enough to allow me to punish, discipline or erotic spank her.
Punishments and discipline were always given for a good reason usually with a lecture as necessary, my feelings were usually somber, I didn't enjoy the need for discipline or punishment.
Erotic spankings were always anticipated with pleasure and were frequently playful.
This is a very brief explanation, it would take a book to fully explore.
Warm hugs,
Paul
Hubby says he just enjoys playing with my behind when he's spanking me. I really didn't expect him to answer in detail as he is somewhat reserved by nature. I'd love to know his thoughts in the moment, but I'm happy just knowing he's enjoying himself. That eliminates any awkwardness for me and lets me enjoy the sensations of the spanking.
I suppose there might be more thought involved in discipline or punishment spankings, but we've only done erotic spankings.
Hi Eliane,
Not sure if my opinion qualifies but here it is none the less. As a woman who rarely but occasionally, spanks other women, the mood and thoughts running through my head are one of two things depending on whether it's playful or discipline.. when playful it consists of giggling and teasing, thinking things such as "smack.. oh I know I'd be biting my tongue right about now" or "you aren't laughing now are you sweetie.. smile" or "wow she sure has a nice bottom .. (yes, I'm comfortable enough in my own sexuality to say this :)
In a disciplinary mode, I'm much more serious and I put on a more caring and concerned persona and my spanks are much harder and slow and accompanied with scolding such as "I'm not sure you realize how much I worry about your health when you don't take care of yourself"... "Do you know how much your disrespecting the rules we've made, disappoints me?"... "I hope each one of these spankings allows you to remember that absolutely no tolerance is given for intentional misbehavior young lady".. etc.. etc.. It comes through pretty clearly I've been told because I have a very emotional and expressive face and I take the trusting role I've been given when in a DD situation, very seriously.
Not like playful when I feel I can be plenty naughty and teasing myself ::grin:::
Suzy
not sure why but my link didn't come out. If you are wondering who Suzy (from A.S.S.) is
it's Suzy from American Spanking Society = http://americanspankingsociety.com
Thanks :)
Suzy
When I'm spanking Mthc my goal is to make her squirm, moan and wet. I know what she likes and my duty is to take her there. Be it to plunge deep inside her or go down on her with my mouth. If she squirts I know that I have pleasured and loved her well. It's the look after on her face that lets me know this.
*hugs and grins*
Hi,
As some of the previous commentors, my thoughts may depend upon the purpose. If a disciplinary nature, I am looking to see whether I am making a point while wondering not enough or too much. If a G/G I am trying to get a certain level of response while thinking "nice view". I may be trying to figure out what is going on inside PK's head as well.
Guys (and gals!)
Thank you for such great responses. What is really interesting is to compare the comments of the spankers to those of the spankees, which, with the odd exception, are pretty much along the lines of 'Huh? Thoughts when I'm being spanked? Not so much!'
So thank you for the insight, it's much appreciated :-)
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