Why We Have It Easy

It sometimes doesn't seem easy to be a submissive/bottom woman (I still have an issue with using the word submissive for myself, but let's assume for the purposes of this discussion that when I say per se, I don't mean submissive per se ;-) ).

Anyway, having wandered off the point, let's get back to it. It often seems hard to be a submissive woman, especially if you're looking for your Mr Kinky Right. When you fish in a small pool in the first place, it reduces the number of fish in there. On the other hand, if you're looking for play, it's not quite so hard. *Quality* play might be another thing altogether, mind you, but there's always people willing to play with you out there. And if you're new on various websites and obviously sub and female, it might feel like there's hundreds of them!

So yeah, life isn't easy for us, but if you're willing to make compromises, you can generally get to have some fun.

Think how much harder life must be if you're a male dom, or a submissive guy looking for play. There always seems to be more dom men than sub women, and we (as women) can therefore be picky, at least to a certain extent, about who we play with. After all as subs we have to put our safety first, so if you creep us out at all, we'll be off, checking out the next prospect.

Even harder still, must be the life of a sub man. There are many fewer dommes out there, and it seems to be a seller's market. I think that Pro-Dommes comprise the biggest part of the "pay for service" market. If you're a guy wanting to be spanked by a woman, you're only option may well be to pay for it, from what I can see. On the other hand, I'm not even sure there's any M/f professional Doms out there.

My message, after all this rambling, is as follows: if you're a sub woman feeling a bit down about life, the scene, and your lot, think on this. It could be worse. You could be sub guy!