So I had a bit of a revelation tonight. My scary thick cane which I've never had used before because looks too scary is actually not as bad as I thought... and certainly not as bad as the thinner one. I'm not saying I'll ever be a massive fan, but the sensation was not what I expected. Certainly it seems that thuddy works better for me than thin and whippy.
What doesn't work for me though, and I'm realising this more and more, is speed. I can't cope with spanking, or caning, too fast. My rather small little brain needs time to process the pain. I need my strokes spacing out.
It's always good to learn these things though, I'm finding. The more idea I have about how to make the most of my play, and enjoy it more, the happier I will be!
17 hours ago